Thoughts

pondering over these a few days ago…

your thoughts are very powerful. your thoughts affect your feelings and shape your future. one negative thought attracts all the negative energies in the universe. one positive thought cascade good things upon you like rain.

if you’re thinking of negative thoughts, try your best to turn it around the positive. look for the blessings in your life, look for the goodness in other people. think and feel the goodness one by one, proclaim gratitude and humble thanksgiving to the Great Provider.

search for the light in you, and keep that fire burning. teach yourself to manifest only good things ALWAYS.

 

Norman Vincent Peale said: ‘Change your thoughts and you change your world.’

 
 

 AMEN to that!

Wedding Dream

[this post was in my draft weeks ago… late post, but well worth remembering!]

i dreamt of getting married. AGAIN.

i dreamt of getting married with Luigi, my hubby, partner and friend.

and as surreal as the dream was, it was vivid and filled with all the frills and preparation expected on a wedding day. i recalled wearing a white wedding gown. Luigi was driving our new white car. and i was overall in charge of the garden wedding. yes, it was a garden wedding, alright.

but in the dream, i was so aware that we were married. yet, we are getting married again.

i remembered telling Luigi, with eyes half-opened, that i dreamt of getting married with him again. and i heard him say, ‘oh, that’s nice…’ almost in blurred words, then fell into a deep slumber afterwards. i too, fell asleep but the memory about my wedding dream remained intact.

pondering, i searched the net for answers and tried to connect the dream with my present state. Dreammoods enlightened me (paragraph 2, in pink font):

Wedding

To see a wedding in your dream, symbolizes a new beginning or transition in your current life. They reflect your issues about commitment and independence. Alternatively, your wedding dream refers to feelings of bitterness, sorrow, or death. Such dreams are often negative and highlight some anxiety or fear. If you dream that the wedding goes wrong or ends in disaster, then it suggests that there is more negativity that needs to be dealt with.

To dream that you are getting married to your current spouse again, represents your wedded bliss and happiness. It highlights your strong commitment to each other. It may also signify a new phase (such as parenthood) that you are entering in your life. 

To dream that you are planning your own wedding to someone you never met, is a metaphor symbolizing the union of your masculine and feminine side. It represents a transitional phase where you are seeking some sort of balance between your aggressive side and emotional side. Two previously conflicting aspects are merging together as one.

   If you are getting married and have dreams of your pending wedding, then it highlights the stress of   organizing a wedding.  Conflicts over wedding details, tension with family and in-laws, fear of commitment, and loss of independence may all cause wedding anxiety dreams.  Research has shown that up to 40% of brides and grooms have dreams about their ceremony and things going perfectly.

on wedded bliss 

yes, we’ve been through some rough spots and most of them were unimaginably critical. we’ve been through the 50-50 phase in ICU, hanging on a thread, thriving. we had to rely our future completely in God’s hands. 

we had to go through the flatline, to let go, and let God. we had to sever ourselves completely from what we were and what we have been. and part of us has to die to regain a new life. 

[on another note, this dream happened a few days after i junked my blogspot blog into the void.]

on a more personal perspective, Luigi and i never really thought of leaving even during the roughest times in our life. leaving is simply NOT an option.

i do not know his reason for holding on. but on my end, i didn’t think it was the best way regardless of our kids’ presence (though it is a substantial factor for sticking together). we stuck because we felt it was the right way to be: to stick until the end, to hold on and brave the storm together.

i look at wedded bliss with a different perspective.

of course, we still have ‘discussions‘ (i don’t like to call it ‘fights’) on certain aspect of the relationship and family life. we have discussions over some petty things or major ones. we discuss about how we manage our finances wrongly, we criticize each our flaws to a matured level. discussions and criticisms are part of the drama in marriage, as in any kind of relationship. it’s an  uncanny way of spicing up life a little bit. 

but there should always be a LIMIT. each party should have an internal warning device that automatically shuts off all unnecessary thoughts and feelings. unnecessary words are stifled, as are unnecessary actions.

also, space is very important. not just a few meters but more legroom for him/her to breathe and writhe into his/her own private space. this is an important process in regaining self-worth and self-confidence, and eventaually being able to give out love.  the cup has to be full to be able to give out.

and yes, the vision of growing old together works all the time! harmonious relationships are created with both hands full and sowing the same seeds of love, kindness, acceptance, understanding and trust. and more importantly, sowing TOGETHER.

weddings are commencement of new things and a lot more possibilities.

perhaps the dream is telling me to expect a brighter and more profound future with Luigi…